Lisa Murphy Counselling & Hypnotherapy

Getting angry online? Here’s a tip.

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Do you ever find yourself getting angry or annoyed at something you’ve read online? If you’re tempted to fire off an irate reply – STOP! (For the video version of this blog, click ‘play’ on the image below) Wait before you hit that reply button. By all means write your reply – get out all the things you need to say, then –and this is important! – don’t send it. Take a step back, breathe, go and have a cup of tea, stretch, go outside, anything to change state.  Even sleep on it if possible. Then when you feel calmer,Continue Reading

Simple tip for a clear organised mind

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“Your mind was meant to be a factory (not a warehouse)” ~ Mike Vardy [Click on the pic below for the video version of this blog] I love this quote as I think it perfectly describes how our minds are creative and love to come up with new ideas, but they don’t do so well with storing ‘to do’ lists and other day-to-day information.  I often speak with busy people during my anger management sessions who have a hundred things they need to do that day crammed in their minds, and it can really stress them out and weigh themContinue Reading

Online Counselling FAQs

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Thinking about trying online counselling but not sure if it’s for you? Doubtful whether it’ll feel the same as ‘real life’ counselling, or worried that it all sounds too complicated? I provide online or telephone counselling as an alternative to face-to-face sessions. Here are some answers to the most common questions I get asked about online therapy services. What is online counselling? Online counselling can mean counselling via email or text messages, or using a video conferencing platform such as Zoom or Teams. I personally offer video therapy rather than email messaging, as I feel that video is the closestContinue Reading

Do I Need Anger Management Counselling?

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Have you been considering Anger Management Counselling, but keep putting it off?  Not sure whether it can really help you?  Here are some of the most common thoughts that prevent people from getting help with their anger: 1: “There’s nothing wrong with me” I completely agree. There isn’t anything wrong with you. But if you’re starting to struggle with anger issues, you may have noticed yourself beginning to over-react to certain situations. For instance, you might get snappy with your partner or children over trivial things, then later on you feel embarrassed and wonder why such a small incident madeContinue Reading

Leap Year 2020 – Set your goals

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Leap year’s a funny old day isn’t it? It pops up when you’re least expecting it and everyone makes a fuss, then it goes to ground again and we all forget about it for the next 4 years. But there’s something I find almost mysterious about it; a day of opportunity; a day that shouldn’t really be there… it just appears out of the mist then fades away again… It feels like anything could be possible on a day like this… So to celebrate Leap Year 2020, here’s a goal-setting technique to help you identify where you’d like to seeContinue Reading

7 ways to break up with anxiety

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Is your relationship with anxiety making you miserable? To celebrate Valentine’s Day, here are 7 ways to break up with anxiety… and start to fall in love with yourself. 1. Stop telling anxiety to stop Have you ever said to yourself ‘I just need to STOP feeling anxious’ – ? Try this: Do your best NOT to think of a pink sparkly elephant sitting in the corner. And whatever you do, don’t give it a fluffy yellow jumper to wear. And definitely don’t imagine it smoking a pipe. Our minds are constantly creating; it’s just how we’re designed. I findContinue Reading

Mindful Memories

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Last week I reached the age of 50. There’s something about reaching these milestone ages that makes me take stock of where I am, think about what I want to achieve in life, and reflect on the memories that have brought me to this moment. The thing is, when I think of the memories that really stand out to me in my life, they haven’t been the spectacular moments or the exciting times. They’ve been the quiet, reflective moments; moments in time where I just stopped and realised all was well in my world. Times like when I was sittingContinue Reading

Reduce your anxiety at the flick of a switch

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If you want a healthy body, then you probably know that it’s a good idea not to fill it with junkfood. But when it comes to having a healthy mind, do you pay much attention to what you’re allowing in? If you suffer from anxiety, you’re likely to be blessed with a very powerful imagination. You use that imagination to create all kinds of worrying scenarios that keep you in a constant state of ‘fight or flight’. So when it comes to external stimulus, you may want to keep a watchful eye on what you’re allowing into your fertile mind.Continue Reading

Create Space for a Calm, Clear 2020

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One of my New Year’s Resolutions for 2020 is a simple but effective decluttering practice that reduces stress and leads to a clear calm mind.It’s amazing how your outer environment can affect your inner world. A clear uncluttered physical space can change the way you feel on the inside. When you clear away clutter and create space around you, you’re identifying what you no longer need, and inviting new and exciting change into your life. I used to do this practice regularly and it felt really expansive and freeing, so I’m looking forward to getting back into it for theContinue Reading

Relationship Counselling for Guilt

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Relationship counselling for guilt is something that I get asked about a lot around this time of year. And it’s not surprising, when you look at the data. According to a recent study, the second most common time for relationships to break up is two weeks before Christmas (the number one time is, believe it or not, Valentine’s Day!) So why do so many people need relationship counselling at a time of year that’s supposed to be so full of love and goodwill? Here are a few examples that may help explain. New Year, New (Single) You As the NewContinue Reading